In life and business there are always people who only see the downside of things. They work overtime to shoot ideas down. For business developers this always forms an unwelcome barrier. For some reason our society lives in the belief that a critical attitude is a sign of intelligence while a positively minded approach will often be regarded as Naive or even outright dumb.

However, those who see opportunities where most others don't need to take the lead by seeking a positive outcome from situations like these. When confronted with 'negative' people, there are few alternatives because that is the way these people have been configured and they probably won't change.

I've learned to evoke a state of mind that helps me deal with this. I call it the 'Aikido-mode'. Before you think I have lost my mind, let me explain:  Aikido is a martial art and is often translated as "The Gentle Way" It is an art that practitioners can use to defend themselves while also protecting their attacker from injury.

Aikido blends the movements of the attacker and redirects the force of the attack rather than opposing it head-on. This requires very little physical strength, as the aikido practitioner transforms the attacker's strength as his defense.

The essence is that there are good takeaways from people who only see the dark-side. What must be understood is that, in their minds, these individuals are often trying to be helpful by keeping people out of trouble by avoiding what they see as serious mistakes. They tend to be risk-averse.

The art lies in transforming this negative energy into a valuable force. So, how do you do that?

I came across a very useful article by David Lee from [email protected] The article provides great insights on how to set up those transformative 'Aikido moves'

The article is a guest blog on under the title "How to Address Negativity in a Positive Way:9 Principles to Guide Your Constructive Conversation"

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